Trans* and Cis* people just need to sit down with a hot cup of love and tolerance.
So, I don’t really follow trans* blogs, or spend any time on the tags, but I’ve got a decent amount of friends who do, and reblog things.
And the thing I’ve noticed most about the community is that there is more hate reblogged than love. I don’t like seeing the tags “trans” and “die cis scum” in the same post, but it has happened more than once. Instead of hating on cis people, try upping the love about trans*.
Yeah, cis people might not always be great people, but just because we aren’t trans* doesn’t mean we don’t care and don’t like you, but by presenting so much hate for cis people, it won’t make the cause any easier.
It’s possible I’m just seeing the same people posting the same hate, and I may well get hated on for this, but I’d like to remind you that we are ALL HUMAN. We all have issues we have to face, and while I may never be trans*, or have to go through the process of coming out as a gender queer person, I’ve had to reveal to people that I am wiccan, and the hatred for that can be pretty bad too. Or what about that friend I have that had to tell his parents, no, he will not go on to be a Doctor? That can be pretty big depending on what kind of family they have. Even cis-gender people who have come out as gay, bi, or lesbian? No, it’s not the same, no, it is probably not more difficult, but don’t forget that there are some cis people out there who at least can fathom what it is like, and not all of them need to go through something similar to have compassion either.
But it becomes far more difficult to find compassion and understanding when you make the people you want to accept you feel attacked and belittled.
I mean, what does it say when people are seriously discussing if “die cis scum” or “die trans scum” is worse? Damn, people, either way you are telling a living being to die. Why should one be worse? Why do you care if one is worse? How about no one tell anyone to die? Is that really so hard for either side?
As a cis-gendered woman, I may never understand what a trans person has gone through, but you can damn well bet that at the very LEAST I will support their rights. All of them. If something small and ingrained into my mind from years and years of societal conditioning makes me sexist, don’t tell me to go die, because those societal values are not my fault, nor will they change until the society has accepted trans people, and even then, it will take some more generations for it to fade, but that is how society’s collective mind works. Women are still struggling for things to really be completely fair. Trans* acceptance will NOT happen overnight, but it will happen faster with more love.
And that is to say, that if I am seeing the wrong end of the community, and there is much love, then you guys (and I use that gender neutrally!) keep on loving!