The feeling Loki must have had when, for the first time, finally people bowed to HIM, paid HIM respect, instead of seeing him only in the shadow of Thor, it must have been so powerful.
A warm surge in his core, melting away the memory of the cold, melting away the frost giant within him and letting him hide it. Pride; he was as worthy as his brother, and yes, even wiser! He could be a good king, a great king- better than Thor, and had he not been an accursed Frost Giant, a mere tool, Odin would have given him that title, not Thor.
But of course the people he considered friends- Thor’s friends- they only saw him as being manipulating and calculating. He really did want what was best for Thor, and that was why he refused to bring him back- the same reason he refused to ask Odin to bring Thor back. Of course, now it would also mean that Thor would take the throne, but the good of Asgard truly did matter despite his jealousy- or it did at the time. But of course no one would trust him because of how he came to the throne, and even for himself the glory of his ascension was tainted by the knowledge that his words had put the man he had loved as his Father into a state of near-death.  And the pain of his heritage being kept from. Even his Father lied to him, the man he put the most trust into.
It broke him, it changed him, and he could no longer bare it. He was seeking approval, a lost and hurt child, but every where that he sought praise or reassurance was not met with what he hoped and craved- or at least not in a way he could see it. Even his Mother could not see his pain, could not understand it, and the guilt was too much, so, being the sort that does manipulate, he told lies to his brother, who would bring ruin to Asgard, hoping to keep him away. He could live on Earth because while he hated his brother for living in the shadow of such a violent fool for so long, he still loved him. If he didn’t love Thor, then he wouldn’t have those tears in his eyes at the end of Thor. And he sought that approval later from Odin, only to be told again that he could not be Thor’s equal, as he saw it. That one syllable, that damning word, ‘No’, spoken softly to him when he just wanted to be acknowledged by the ones he loved. But he never got it, and so he just could not deal with his love for Asgard, for Thor, for Odin, so he left it behind him in that moment he let go of his spear, falling into space.
And thus a monster was born.

The feeling Loki must have had when, for the first time, finally people bowed to HIM, paid HIM respect, instead of seeing him only in the shadow of Thor, it must have been so powerful.

A warm surge in his core, melting away the memory of the cold, melting away the frost giant within him and letting him hide it. Pride; he was as worthy as his brother, and yes, even wiser! He could be a good king, a great king- better than Thor, and had he not been an accursed Frost Giant, a mere tool, Odin would have given him that title, not Thor.

But of course the people he considered friends- Thor’s friends- they only saw him as being manipulating and calculating. He really did want what was best for Thor, and that was why he refused to bring him back- the same reason he refused to ask Odin to bring Thor back. Of course, now it would also mean that Thor would take the throne, but the good of Asgard truly did matter despite his jealousy- or it did at the time. But of course no one would trust him because of how he came to the throne, and even for himself the glory of his ascension was tainted by the knowledge that his words had put the man he had loved as his Father into a state of near-death.  And the pain of his heritage being kept from. Even his Father lied to him, the man he put the most trust into.

It broke him, it changed him, and he could no longer bare it. He was seeking approval, a lost and hurt child, but every where that he sought praise or reassurance was not met with what he hoped and craved- or at least not in a way he could see it. Even his Mother could not see his pain, could not understand it, and the guilt was too much, so, being the sort that does manipulate, he told lies to his brother, who would bring ruin to Asgard, hoping to keep him away. He could live on Earth because while he hated his brother for living in the shadow of such a violent fool for so long, he still loved him. If he didn’t love Thor, then he wouldn’t have those tears in his eyes at the end of Thor. And he sought that approval later from Odin, only to be told again that he could not be Thor’s equal, as he saw it. That one syllable, that damning word, ‘No’, spoken softly to him when he just wanted to be acknowledged by the ones he loved. But he never got it, and so he just could not deal with his love for Asgard, for Thor, for Odin, so he left it behind him in that moment he let go of his spear, falling into space.

And thus a monster was born.

The feeling Loki must have had when, for the first time, finally people bowed to HIM, paid HIM respect, instead of seeing him only in the shadow of Thor, it must have been so powerful.

A warm surge in his core, melting away the memory of the cold, melting away the frost giant within him and letting him hide it. Pride; he was as worthy as his brother, and yes, even wiser! He could be a good king, a great king- better than Thor, and had he not been an accursed Frost Giant, a mere tool, Odin would have given him that title, not Thor.

But of course the people he considered friends- Thor’s friends- they only saw him as being manipulating and calculating. He really did want what was best for Thor, and that was why he refused to bring him back- the same reason he refused to ask Odin to bring Thor back. Of course, now it would also mean that Thor would take the throne, but the good of Asgard truly did matter despite his jealousy- or it did at the time. But of course no one would trust him because of how he came to the throne, and even for himself the glory of his ascension was tainted by the knowledge that his words had put the man he had loved as his Father into a state of near-death.  And the pain of his heritage being kept from. Even his Father lied to him, the man he put the most trust into.

It broke him, it changed him, and he could no longer bare it. Even his Mother could not see his pain, could not understand it, and the guilt was too much, so, being the sort that does manipulate, he told lies to his brother, who would bring ruin to Asgard, hoping to keep him away. He could live on Earth because while he hated his brother for living in the shadow of such a violent fool for so long, he still loved him. He just couldn’t deal with that love, so he left it behind.

And thus a monster was born.

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Nerds and Male Privilege (definitely worth a read!)
I want to tell you a story.
A few years ago, I was dating a girl who was decidedly not nerd curious. She tolerated my geeky interests with a certain bemused air but definitely didn’t participate in ‘em… not even setting foot inside a comic store on new comic day. She’d wait outside until I was done… which could be a while, since I was friends with several of the staff.
She came in the store exactly once, after I’d explained that no, it’s a pretty friendly place… well lit, spacious, organized and with helpful – and clearly identified – staff members who were willing to bend over backwards to make sure their customers were satisfied.
She was in there for less than 4 minutes before one mouth-breathing troglodyte began alternately staring at her boobs – evidently hoping that x-ray vision could develop spontaneously – and berating her for daring to comment on the skimpy nature of the costumes – in this case, Lady Death and Witchblade. She fled the premises, never to return.
When both the manager and I explained to him in no uncertain terms as to what he did wrong he shrugged his shoulders. “Hey, I was just trying to help you guys! She couldn’t understand that chicks can be tough and sexy! Not my fault she’s a chauvinist,” he said.
And that was when I shot him, your honor.
So with that example in mind, let’s talk about a subject I’ve touched on before: Male Privilege and how it applies to geeks and – more importantly – geek girls.
MALE PRIVILEGE: WHAT IS IT, EXACTLY?
I don’t think I’m breaking any news or blowing minds when I point out that geek culture as a whole is predominantly male. Not to say that women aren’t making huge inroads in science fiction/fantasy fandom, gaming, anime and comics… but it’s still a very male culture. As such, it caters to the predominantly male audience that makes it up. This, in turn leads to the phenomenon known as male privilege: the idea that men – most often straight, white men – as a whole, get certain privileges and status because of their gender.
(Obvious disclaimer: I’m a straight white man.)
In geek culture, this manifests in a number of ways. The most obvious is in the portrayal of female characters in comics, video games and movies. Batman: Arkham City provides an excellent example.
The women are all about sex, sex, sexy sextimes. With maybe a little villainy thrown in for flavor. They may be characters, but they’re also sexual objects to be consumed.
I will pause now for the traditional arguments from my readers: these characters are all femme fatales in the comics, all of the characters in the Arkham games are over-the-top, the men are just as exaggerated/sexualized/objectified as the women. Got all of that out of your systems? Good.
Because that reaction is exactly what I’m talking about.
Y’see, one of the issues of male privilege as it applies to fandom is the instinctive defensive reaction to any criticism that maybe, just maybe, shit’s a little fucked up, yo. Nobody wants to acknowledge that a one-sided (and one-dimensional) portrayal of women is the dominant paradigm in gaming; the vast majority of female characters are sexual objects. If a girl wants to see herself represented in video games, she better get used to the idea of being the prize at the bottom of the cereal box. If she wants to see herself as a main character, then it’s time to get ready for a parade of candyfloss costumes where nipple slips are only prevented by violating the laws of physics. The number of games with competent female protagonists who wear more than the Victoria’s Secret Angels are few and far between.
The idea that perhaps the way women are portrayed in fandom is a leetle sexist is regularly met with denials, justifications and outright dismissal of the issue. So regularly, in fact, that there’s a Bingo card covering the most common responses. Part of the notion of male privilege in fandom is that nothing is wrong with fandom and that suggestions that it might benefit from some diversity is treated as a threat.
But what is that threat, exactly?
In this case, the threat is that – ultimately – fandom won’t cater to guys almost to exclusion… that gays, lesbians, racial and religious minorities and (gasp!) women might start having a say in the way that games, comics, etc. will be created in the future. The strawmen that are regularly trotted out – that men are objectified as well, that it’s a convention of the genre, that women actually have more privileges than guys – are a distraction from the real issue: that the Privileged are worried that they won’t be as privileged in the near future if this threat isn’t stomped out. Hence the usual reactions: derailment, minimization and ultimately dismissing the topic all together.
As much as my nerdy brethren wish that more girls were of the geeky persuasion, it’s a little understandable why women might be a little reticent. It’s hard to feel valued or fully included when a very vocal group insists that your input is irrelevant, misguided and ultimately unwelcome. It’s small wonder why geekdom – for all of it’s self-proclaimed enlightened attitudes towards outsiders and outcasts – stil retains the odor of the guy’s locker room.
HOW MALE PRIVILEGE AFFECTS GEEK GIRLS IN REAL LIFE
Don’t make the mistake of thinking male privilege is solely about how big Power Girl’s tits are, fan service and jiggle physics in 3D fighters. It affects geek girls in direct, personal ways as well.
Remember the example I mentioned earlier with my then-girlfriend in the comic store? Her opinions were deemed mistaken and she was told she didn’t “get it”… because she was a girl.
Y’see, one of the issues that nerd girls face is the fact that they are seen as girls first and anything else second. And before you flood my comments section demanding to know why this is a bad thing, realize that being seen as a “girl” first colors every interaction that they have within fandom. They’re treated differently because they are women.
We will now pause for the expected responses: well that’s a good thing isn’t it, girls get special treatment because they’re girls, guys will fall all over themselves to try to get girls to like ‘em so it all balances out.
If you’re paying attention you’ll realize that – once again – those reactions are what I’m talking about.
Y’see, nobody’s saying that women don’t receive different treatment from guys… I’m saying that being treated differently is the problem. And yes, I know exactly what many of you are going to say and I’ll get to that in a minute.
Male privilege – again – is about what men can expect as the default setting for society. A man isn’t going to have everything about him filtered through the prism of his gender first. A man, for example, who gets a job isn’t going to face with suggestions that his attractiveness or that his willingness to perform sexual favors was a factor in his being hired, nor will he be shrugged off as a “quota hire”. A man isn’t expected to be a representative of his sex in all things; if he fails at a job, it’s not going to be extrapolated that all men are unfit for that job. A man who’s strong-willed or aggressive won’t be denigrated for it, nor are men socialized to “go along to get along”. A man can expect to have his opinion considered, not dismissed out of hand because of his sex. When paired with a woman who’s of equal status, the man can expect that most of the world will assume that he’s the one in charge. And, critically, a man doesn’t have to continually view the world through the lens of potential violence and sexual assault.
Now with this in mind, consider why being a girl first may be a hindrance to geek girls. A guy who plays a first person shooter – Call of Duty, Halo, Battlefield, what-have-you – online may expect a certain amount of trash talking, but he’s not going to be inundated with offers for sex, threats of rape, sounds of simulated masturbation or demands that he blow the other players – but not before going to the kitchen and getting them a beer/sandwich/pizza first. Men will also not be told that they’re being “too sensitive” or that “they need to toughen up” when they complain about said sexual threats.
Men also won’t have their opinions weighed or dismissed solely on the basis of how sexy or attractive they are. The most common responses a woman can expect in an argument – especially online – is that she’s fat, ugly, single, jealous, a whore, or a lesbian – or any combination thereof – and therefore her opinion is irrelevant, regardless of it’s actual merits. This is especially true if she’s commenting on the portrayal of female characters, whether in comics, video games or movies.
Men can expect that their presence at an event won’t automatically be assumed to be decorative or secondary to another man. Despite the growing presence of women in comics, as publishers, editors and creators as well as consumers, a preponderance of men will either treat women at conventions as inconveniences, booth bunnies or even potential dates. Many a female creator or publisher has had the experience of convention guests coming up and addressing all of their questions to the man at the table… despite being told many times that the man is often the assistant, not the talent, only there to provide logistical support and occasional heavy lifting.
Men are also not going to be automatically assigned into a particular niche just based on their gender. A girl in a comic store or a video game store is far more likely to be dismissed as another customer’s girlfriend/sister/cousin rather than being someone who might actually be interested in making a purchase herself. And when they are seen as customers, they’re often automatically assumed to be buying one of the designated “girl” properties… regardless of whether they were just reading Ultimate Spider-Man or looking for a copy of Saint’s Row 3.
Of course, the other side of the coin isn’t much better; being dismissed for the sin of being a woman is bad, but being placed on the traditional pillar is no less insulting. Guys who fall all over themselves to fawn over a geek girl and dance in attendance upon her are just as bad. The behavior is different, but the message is the same: she’s different because she’s a girl. These would-be white knights are ultimately treating her as a fetish object, not as a person. It’s especially notable when it comes to sexy cosplayers; the guys will laude them for being geek girls and celebrate them in person and online. They’ll lavish attention upon them, take photos of them and treat them as queens…
And in doing so, they’re sending the message that women are only valued in geek culture if they’re willing to be a sexually alluring product. Everybody loves Olivia Munn when she enters the room ass-cheeks first as Aeon Flux, but nobody is particularly concerned by the girls dressed in a baseball tee, jeans and ballet flats. One of these is welcomed into geek culture with open arms, the other has to justify their existence in the first place.
WHAT DOES ALL OF THIS MEAN TO YOU?
The reason why male privilege is so insidious is because of the insistance that it doesn’t exist in the first place. That willful ignorance is key in keeping it in place; by pretending that the issue doesn’t exist, it is that much easier to ensure that nothing ever changes.
Geek society prides itself on being explicitly counter-culture; nerds will crow about how, as a society, they’re better than the others who exclude them. They’ll insist that they’re more egalitarian; geeks hold tight to the belief that geek culture is a meritocracy, where concepts of agism, sexism and racism simply don’t exist the way it does elsewhere. And yet, even a cursory examination will demonstrate that this isn’t true.
And yet geeks will cling to this illusion while simultaneously refusing to address the matters that make it so unattractive to women and minorities. They will insist that they treat women exactly the same as they treat guys – all the while ignoring the fact that their behavior is what’s making the women uncomfortable and feeling unwelcome in the first place. They will find one girl in their immediate community who will say that she’s not offended and use her as the “proof” that nobody else is allowed to be offended.
Changing this prevailing attitude starts with the individual. Call it part of learning to be a better person; being willing to examine your own attitudes and behaviors and to be ruthlessly honest about the benefits you get from being a white male in fandom is the first step. Waving your hands and pretending that there isn’t a problem is a part of the attitude that makes women feel unwelcome in fandom and serves as the barrier to entry to geeky pursuits that she might otherwise enjoy.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. This guy gets it and he’s a brilliant writer to boot. This is awesome…and important.
I am a geek girl, and I am glad there is someone out there that understands this. I tend to end up becoming the girl you mentioned that the geek boys will point to and say “Well, she’s not offended.” But I am. I will play along at times to get along in the culture, but that is because unless I sometimes let the boys  play their “superiority card” I would easily not be able to stand hanging out with geeks at all.
Don’t get me wrong- I stand up for myself, but if a geek is staring at my tits, I will let it pass sometimes. I won’t think of them nearly as highly because they found my tits more interesting than my theory of the Legend of Zelda timeline- which turned out to be the same as company’s official one, and proving my point, I had to point out the paper we taped to the wall with my explanation for anyone to believe that I could have had a worthwhile opinion.

If I had a penny for every time I either got a “puppy dog” chasing me around and fawning on me, or heard “tits or GTFO” I could probably have funded all of ADOM II on kickstarter on my own.

I might not know every comic book or be an expert at coding computers, but as the days go by, I’m getting better at those too. I probably would have been good at that if I wasn’t told in middle school by my father that “the boys who read this stuff are messed up, and see girls as objects. You don’t want to be reading those.” As a strong girl, no, I didn’t want to read anything that portrayed a woman that way. As a strong young woman, I enjoy the stories, but I’d still like to find a great heroine that didn’t have to show off her body. But books like that won’t sell because they are not marketable.

And that’s the problem. Women are only seen for their marketability- both on the industry and consumer side of geek culture.

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Nerds and Male Privilege (definitely worth a read!)

I want to tell you a story.

A few years ago, I was dating a girl who was decidedly not nerd curious. She tolerated my geeky interests with a certain bemused air but definitely didn’t participate in ‘em… not even setting foot inside a comic store on new comic day. She’d wait outside until I was done… which could be a while, since I was friends with several of the staff.

She came in the store exactly once, after I’d explained that no, it’s a pretty friendly place… well lit, spacious, organized and with helpful – and clearly identified – staff members who were willing to bend over backwards to make sure their customers were satisfied.

She was in there for less than 4 minutes before one mouth-breathing troglodyte began alternately staring at her boobs – evidently hoping that x-ray vision could develop spontaneously – and berating her for daring to comment on the skimpy nature of the costumes – in this case, Lady Death and Witchblade. She fled the premises, never to return.

When both the manager and I explained to him in no uncertain terms as to what he did wrong he shrugged his shoulders. “Hey, I was just trying to help you guys! She couldn’t understand that chicks can be tough and sexy! Not my fault she’s a chauvinist,” he said.

And that was when I shot him, your honor.

So with that example in mind, let’s talk about a subject I’ve touched on before: Male Privilege and how it applies to geeks and – more importantly – geek girls.

MALE PRIVILEGE: WHAT IS IT, EXACTLY?

I don’t think I’m breaking any news or blowing minds when I point out that geek culture as a whole is predominantly male. Not to say that women aren’t making huge inroads in science fiction/fantasy fandom, gaming, anime and comics… but it’s still a very male culture. As such, it caters to the predominantly male audience that makes it up. This, in turn leads to the phenomenon known as male privilege: the idea that men – most often straight, white men – as a whole, get certain privileges and status because of their gender.

(Obvious disclaimer: I’m a straight white man.)

In geek culture, this manifests in a number of ways. The most obvious is in the portrayal of female characters in comics, video games and movies. Batman: Arkham City provides an excellent example.

The women are all about sex, sex, sexy sextimes. With maybe a little villainy thrown in for flavor. They may be characters, but they’re also sexual objects to be consumed.

I will pause now for the traditional arguments from my readers: these characters are all femme fatales in the comics, all of the characters in the Arkham games are over-the-top, the men are just as exaggerated/sexualized/objectified as the women. Got all of that out of your systems? Good.

Because that reaction is exactly what I’m talking about.

Y’see, one of the issues of male privilege as it applies to fandom is the instinctive defensive reaction to any criticism that maybe, just maybe, shit’s a little fucked up, yo. Nobody wants to acknowledge that a one-sided (and one-dimensional) portrayal of women is the dominant paradigm in gaming; the vast majority of female characters are sexual objects. If a girl wants to see herself represented in video games, she better get used to the idea of being the prize at the bottom of the cereal box. If she wants to see herself as a main character, then it’s time to get ready for a parade of candyfloss costumes where nipple slips are only prevented by violating the laws of physics. The number of games with competent female protagonists who wear more than the Victoria’s Secret Angels are few and far between.

The idea that perhaps the way women are portrayed in fandom is a leetle sexist is regularly met with denials, justifications and outright dismissal of the issue. So regularly, in fact, that there’s a Bingo card covering the most common responses. Part of the notion of male privilege in fandom is that nothing is wrong with fandom and that suggestions that it might benefit from some diversity is treated as a threat.

But what is that threat, exactly?

In this case, the threat is that – ultimately – fandom won’t cater to guys almost to exclusion… that gays, lesbians, racial and religious minorities and (gasp!) women might start having a say in the way that games, comics, etc. will be created in the future. The strawmen that are regularly trotted out – that men are objectified as well, that it’s a convention of the genre, that women actually have more privileges than guys – are a distraction from the real issue: that the Privileged are worried that they won’t be as privileged in the near future if this threat isn’t stomped out. Hence the usual reactions: derailment, minimization and ultimately dismissing the topic all together.

As much as my nerdy brethren wish that more girls were of the geeky persuasion, it’s a little understandable why women might be a little reticent. It’s hard to feel valued or fully included when a very vocal group insists that your input is irrelevant, misguided and ultimately unwelcome. It’s small wonder why geekdom – for all of it’s self-proclaimed enlightened attitudes towards outsiders and outcasts – stil retains the odor of the guy’s locker room.

HOW MALE PRIVILEGE AFFECTS GEEK GIRLS IN REAL LIFE

Don’t make the mistake of thinking male privilege is solely about how big Power Girl’s tits are, fan service and jiggle physics in 3D fighters. It affects geek girls in direct, personal ways as well.

Remember the example I mentioned earlier with my then-girlfriend in the comic store? Her opinions were deemed mistaken and she was told she didn’t “get it”… because she was a girl.

Y’see, one of the issues that nerd girls face is the fact that they are seen as girls first and anything else second. And before you flood my comments section demanding to know why this is a bad thing, realize that being seen as a “girl” first colors every interaction that they have within fandom. They’re treated differently because they are women.

We will now pause for the expected responses: well that’s a good thing isn’t it, girls get special treatment because they’re girls, guys will fall all over themselves to try to get girls to like ‘em so it all balances out.

If you’re paying attention you’ll realize that – once again – those reactions are what I’m talking about.

Y’see, nobody’s saying that women don’t receive different treatment from guys… I’m saying that being treated differently is the problem. And yes, I know exactly what many of you are going to say and I’ll get to that in a minute.

Male privilege – again – is about what men can expect as the default setting for society. A man isn’t going to have everything about him filtered through the prism of his gender first. A man, for example, who gets a job isn’t going to face with suggestions that his attractiveness or that his willingness to perform sexual favors was a factor in his being hired, nor will he be shrugged off as a “quota hire”. A man isn’t expected to be a representative of his sex in all things; if he fails at a job, it’s not going to be extrapolated that all men are unfit for that job. A man who’s strong-willed or aggressive won’t be denigrated for it, nor are men socialized to “go along to get along”. A man can expect to have his opinion considered, not dismissed out of hand because of his sex. When paired with a woman who’s of equal status, the man can expect that most of the world will assume that he’s the one in charge. And, critically, a man doesn’t have to continually view the world through the lens of potential violence and sexual assault.

Now with this in mind, consider why being a girl first may be a hindrance to geek girls. A guy who plays a first person shooter – Call of Duty, Halo, Battlefield, what-have-you – online may expect a certain amount of trash talking, but he’s not going to be inundated with offers for sex, threats of rape, sounds of simulated masturbation or demands that he blow the other players – but not before going to the kitchen and getting them a beer/sandwich/pizza first. Men will also not be told that they’re being “too sensitive” or that “they need to toughen up” when they complain about said sexual threats.

Men also won’t have their opinions weighed or dismissed solely on the basis of how sexy or attractive they are. The most common responses a woman can expect in an argument – especially online – is that she’s fat, ugly, single, jealous, a whore, or a lesbian – or any combination thereof – and therefore her opinion is irrelevant, regardless of it’s actual merits. This is especially true if she’s commenting on the portrayal of female characters, whether in comics, video games or movies.

Men can expect that their presence at an event won’t automatically be assumed to be decorative or secondary to another man. Despite the growing presence of women in comics, as publishers, editors and creators as well as consumers, a preponderance of men will either treat women at conventions as inconveniences, booth bunnies or even potential dates. Many a female creator or publisher has had the experience of convention guests coming up and addressing all of their questions to the man at the table… despite being told many times that the man is often the assistant, not the talent, only there to provide logistical support and occasional heavy lifting.

Men are also not going to be automatically assigned into a particular niche just based on their gender. A girl in a comic store or a video game store is far more likely to be dismissed as another customer’s girlfriend/sister/cousin rather than being someone who might actually be interested in making a purchase herself. And when they are seen as customers, they’re often automatically assumed to be buying one of the designated “girl” properties… regardless of whether they were just reading Ultimate Spider-Man or looking for a copy of Saint’s Row 3.

Of course, the other side of the coin isn’t much better; being dismissed for the sin of being a woman is bad, but being placed on the traditional pillar is no less insulting. Guys who fall all over themselves to fawn over a geek girl and dance in attendance upon her are just as bad. The behavior is different, but the message is the same: she’s different because she’s a girl. These would-be white knights are ultimately treating her as a fetish object, not as a person. It’s especially notable when it comes to sexy cosplayers; the guys will laude them for being geek girls and celebrate them in person and online. They’ll lavish attention upon them, take photos of them and treat them as queens…

And in doing so, they’re sending the message that women are only valued in geek culture if they’re willing to be a sexually alluring product. Everybody loves Olivia Munn when she enters the room ass-cheeks first as Aeon Flux, but nobody is particularly concerned by the girls dressed in a baseball tee, jeans and ballet flats. One of these is welcomed into geek culture with open arms, the other has to justify their existence in the first place.

WHAT DOES ALL OF THIS MEAN TO YOU?

The reason why male privilege is so insidious is because of the insistance that it doesn’t exist in the first place. That willful ignorance is key in keeping it in place; by pretending that the issue doesn’t exist, it is that much easier to ensure that nothing ever changes.

Geek society prides itself on being explicitly counter-culture; nerds will crow about how, as a society, they’re better than the others who exclude them. They’ll insist that they’re more egalitarian; geeks hold tight to the belief that geek culture is a meritocracy, where concepts of agism, sexism and racism simply don’t exist the way it does elsewhere. And yet, even a cursory examination will demonstrate that this isn’t true.

And yet geeks will cling to this illusion while simultaneously refusing to address the matters that make it so unattractive to women and minorities. They will insist that they treat women exactly the same as they treat guys – all the while ignoring the fact that their behavior is what’s making the women uncomfortable and feeling unwelcome in the first place. They will find one girl in their immediate community who will say that she’s not offended and use her as the “proof” that nobody else is allowed to be offended.

Changing this prevailing attitude starts with the individual. Call it part of learning to be a better person; being willing to examine your own attitudes and behaviors and to be ruthlessly honest about the benefits you get from being a white male in fandom is the first step. Waving your hands and pretending that there isn’t a problem is a part of the attitude that makes women feel unwelcome in fandom and serves as the barrier to entry to geeky pursuits that she might otherwise enjoy.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. This guy gets it and he’s a brilliant writer to boot. This is awesome…and important.

I am a geek girl, and I am glad there is someone out there that understands this. I tend to end up becoming the girl you mentioned that the geek boys will point to and say “Well, she’s not offended.” But I am. I will play along at times to get along in the culture, but that is because unless I sometimes let the boys  play their “superiority card” I would easily not be able to stand hanging out with geeks at all.

Don’t get me wrong- I stand up for myself, but if a geek is staring at my tits, I will let it pass sometimes. I won’t think of them nearly as highly because they found my tits more interesting than my theory of the Legend of Zelda timeline- which turned out to be the same as company’s official one, and proving my point, I had to point out the paper we taped to the wall with my explanation for anyone to believe that I could have had a worthwhile opinion.

If I had a penny for every time I either got a “puppy dog” chasing me around and fawning on me, or heard “tits or GTFO” I could probably have funded all of ADOM II on kickstarter on my own.

I might not know every comic book or be an expert at coding computers, but as the days go by, I’m getting better at those too. I probably would have been good at that if I wasn’t told in middle school by my father that “the boys who read this stuff are messed up, and see girls as objects. You don’t want to be reading those.” As a strong girl, no, I didn’t want to read anything that portrayed a woman that way. As a strong young woman, I enjoy the stories, but I’d still like to find a great heroine that didn’t have to show off her body. But books like that won’t sell because they are not marketable.

And that’s the problem. Women are only seen for their marketability- both on the industry and consumer side of geek culture.

(Source: womenaresociety)

owl-recluse:

iamterra:

GLaDOS and her little killers~

THIS IS REALLY CUTE

underwaterrocks:

Does this face looked bothered?

underwaterrocks:

Does this face looked bothered?

(Source: unadulteratedfuckery)

Alamo Drafthouse and Theater; Movies without distractions! ↗

If we could run our ideal movie theater, it would be free from all the crap that makes most modern multiplexes a nightmare. There would be excellent projection and sound, parents would be barred from bringing toddlers into R-rated movies, beer would be served and people who like to text in the dark would get tossed out. Turns out we don’t need to create that theater, because somebody already did. (From Nerdist News)


So frigging cute!

So frigging cute!

Every hotel in the Supernatural world has the same room layout. Only the decor changes. Sometimes the partial wall in front of the door has stained glass, other times it’s a bad 70’s abstract shape with poke-ball things, but that wall is always there.

Can’t you guys build a few more sets?

(I’m only on season two, so I hope it changes eventually, but until then, it’s just funny.)

I think I'm funny sometimes


  • Nick Fury: And Tony, remember I got my eye on you.
  • Me: ... so that's why he only has one eye, he's too busy putting his other one on people. Gross.

I just saw The Avengers. I spent the whole movie flipping between these two expressions. My arms are tired!

Happy Star Wars Day!

(Source: songsofthestars)

ladyammarettossniperrifle:

flamingunicorn:

Oh what a nice doodle for Googl-

Wait

is that-

JESUS

WAT.

(Source: baketothefuture)


In a simple experiment, researchers at the University of Chicago sought to find out whether a rat would release a fellow rat from an unpleasantly restrictive cage if it could. The answer was yes.
The free rat, occasionally hearing distress calls from its compatriot, learned to open the cage and did so with greater efficiency over time. It would release the other animal even if there wasn’t the payoff of a reunion with it. Astonishingly, if given access to a small hoard of chocolate chips, the free rat would usually save at least one treat for the captive — which is a lot to expect of a rat.
The researchers came to the unavoidable conclusion that what they were seeing was empathy. 

In a simple experiment, researchers at the University of Chicago sought to find out whether a rat would release a fellow rat from an unpleasantly restrictive cage if it could. The answer was yes.

The free rat, occasionally hearing distress calls from its compatriot, learned to open the cage and did so with greater efficiency over time. It would release the other animal even if there wasn’t the payoff of a reunion with it. Astonishingly, if given access to a small hoard of chocolate chips, the free rat would usually save at least one treat for the captive — which is a lot to expect of a rat.

The researchers came to the unavoidable conclusion that what they were seeing was empathy.